Flowers will bloom in the appointed time, fruits will yield in their season. The rains are here, droplets from the sky to bless the earth. The seed planted by the farmer will grow now that the rains are here. The trees will give their shade to the weary traveler. When it rains, the traveler will be distraught, but not for long, because the farmer will invite him to his home and they will share a meal together. In the morning, the traveler will be on his way, knowing that the rains caused him to receive kindness.

L’herbe est toujours plus verte chez ton voisin

That’s French for “The grass is always greener on the other side”

The comparison culture in our world is everywhere. It has seeped into the very fabric of society. You would think that it stops when someone has reached a particular position or level, but it only gets deeper or more expensive. “Our favorite hobby is carrying other people clock on our head”, an excerpt from this blog post

As JCole said “No such thing like a life that’s better than yours”. Our stories and timelines are different and unique. Your own fruit does not come from constant comparison. For me, I find the following very crucial in escaping the comparison culture:

  • Knowing your true identity – When you know who you are, you won’t easily fall into the trap of wanting to be someone else. Your true identity is found in God.


  • Practicing gratitude – do you realise that some of the things you have now were what you prayed for at one point in your life. Starting off each day with practicing gratitude will do wonders for your mind. It is very easy to focus on what you don’t have, but that is usually detrimental. Focus on the blessings in your life. Be thankful for life, for love, for laughter.

  • Remove comparison triggers – You know what I mean, that account you follow on IG that always leaves you wondering what you are doing with your life. I once read a book about habits. A habit loop has three steps; the cue, the routine, the reward. For example, when you are bored (that’s the cue), you go on Instagram (the routine), dopamine is released i.e. you get brief satisfaction (the reward). Understanding our patterns is key to removing triggers. Knowing what makes you start the downhill journey of comparison will help you change the routine. Sometimes the cue can’t be easily removed, so instead, you change the routine. Instead of thinking “God when”, change your focus to making the best use of the opportunities you have now.

Stop imitating the ideals and opinions of the culture around you, but be inwardly transformed by the Holy Spirit through a total reformation of how you think. This will empower you to discern God’s will as you live a beautiful life, satisfying and perfect in his eyes.

Romans 12:2 TPT


-Love, Adeoluwa

17 thoughts on “Comparison Culture”

  1. Thank you Ade❤..,,this is the message for the season.
    Please what is the name of the book on habits?

  2. I’m taking as much deep breathes as i can, letting this sink in

    (Who else feels the connection between this post and the Chinese bamboo stick post).

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